About toxic behavior and how to stop this kind of traits. Are you a toxic person or do you have someone who is extremely toxic for your life?
We all deal, at some point or we come across someone who is toxic and causes a lot of problems. These kind of people are toxic because of the way they manage things, treat the others, the way they talk, do things.
Toxic traits on toxic people
All toxic people have these toxic traits. They are manipulative, can create conflicts over simple things, may abuse you emotionally, verbally, physically, and they can do a lot of bad things and despite that, it is always your fault.
Let’s clarify one simple thing. Who is a toxic person? It may be a colleague, a friend, your partner and even a family member. We usually don’t recognize toxic behavior from the beginning, but why?
It is because they are close to our heart. And yes, we tend to have blind spots for such people. We usually ignore their toxic behavior only because there is a really strong connection and if we have feelings, they won’t hurt us, right?
A toxic person (even you can be one) is someone who causes you a lot of stress, negativity, anger and sorrow to your life. And if you ever asked someone “why are you acting like this?” or just said “your behavior is not ok, you have to do something“, you have your answer.
These kind of people are not toxic because they want to be. They just have been through trauma themselves. Instead of dealing with that trauma, they just live with it and start being like that.
How can you recognize someone as toxic?
They are trying to take all the control, so you’ll do what they want and if you won’t obey, it will be hard for yourself, only because they tend to use people for their own purpose. Toxic people judge a lot, but they are not better, can criticize you in front of others to belittle you and for them may be fun.
They tend to blame others for their own mistakes, it is your fault, every time for everything. Also, toxic people are aggressive if things don’t go the way they want. That’s why they can start a conflict anytime and because of that, they tend to dominate other people.
How to change toxic behavior
If you really care about yourself as you should, you have to deal with them or you will end up not that good. But if you are the toxic one, don’t wait and do something or you might end up alone.
Always remember, IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO FIX SOMEONE. You can offer your help to someone but make sure you have enough emotional energy left for your own good.
You have to take a step forward and say no. Set some boundaries, make yourself a priority. Don’t move to another city to get rid of toxic people. It’s possible to offer compassion to such people, but that’s all. You can’t change them if they don’t want to.
On the other hand, if you think that maybe you are a toxic person, reach out for help. Be aware of yourself and your behavior and only you can let go of that trauma. Change for your own good first! Afterwards you can keep people in you life and you can treat them properly.
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